Deciding to break up can be emotionally challenging, and discovering that you are stuck on the lease together can feel overwhelming. However, there are ways to manage this situation.
First, start by reaching out to your landlord—don’t assume they’ll refuse to negotiate. You may be surprised by their willingness to work with you. If breaking the lease comes with financial 
penalties, consider whether the short-term cost is a worthwhile investment in your long-term well-being. If leaving isn’t an option, focus on setting clear boundaries, creating separate spaces, and having open conversations about coexisting peacefully.
Depending on your breakup’s circumstances, this may be challenging, but with the right approach, it’s often possible. It’s a good idea to remember that you are not stuck on the lead or the relationship forever.
With 30 years as a real estate agent and now as a psychotherapist, I understand both the financial and emotional complexities that can make you feel trapped. I can help you find the best path forward with clarity and confidence. Sometimes, an objective third party can make a complex situation more manageable. If you’re feeling overwhelmed and need guidance, I’m here to help—reach out anytime. Contact me here
Being stuck on the lease doesn’t mean you have to feel trapped.
Creating separate spaces within your shared home can help ease tension and provide a sense of independence. If possible, designate individual rooms for privacy, such as one person taking the bedroom while the other sets up in the living room. Use physical dividers like bookshelves or curtains to create visual separation in shared spaces. Establishing a schedule for using common areas, like the kitchen or bathroom, can also minimize unnecessary interactions. Personalizing your own space with comforting items—like photos, candles, or a small workspace—can make the transition easier while you figure out your next steps.
Setting boundaries is just as important as creating physical space. Have an honest conversation about expectations, such as respecting each other’s privacy, limiting social interactions in the home, and setting guidelines for household responsibilities. Consider using written agreements or shared calendars to ensure clarity and avoid misunderstandings. If tensions rise, communicate via text or email when necessary to maintain a level of emotional distance. Most important avoid talking when you are angry
Most importantly, prioritize self-care and seek outside support, whether through friends, family, or professional guidance. Establishing these boundaries can help create a livable environment while you work toward a permanent solution. Read more on setting and communicating boundaries here. Or for individual help in the Calabasas CA area contact me here
